If the movies were to be believed, my life would
be very different right now. By now, my Matthew McConaughey type
boyfriend would have grown a pair, realised the error of his ways and
made some grand gesture to win me over and forgive him
for his trivial mistake he made earlier in the film/ I mean, our life.
And yet here we are... My wise friend Pi put this into context for me (she is a genius by the way, but it’s true), LIFE IS NOT A
ROMANTIC COMEDY. Plain and simple.
Nora Ephron did not write the script for us...
we should not expect things to work out neatly tied up in a pretty bow.
When things fall apart, they do for a reason. While you want to hang
onto the idea of things working out, they may, or
they may never again. If you’re single and you’re looking for someone,
expecting the next person you meet to be ‘the one’ or somewhat perfect
for you, is probably not realistic or healthy. Expecting some poor guy
to fall over backwards and give some grand
gesture to ask you out is most likely not going to happen... especially
if that male happens to be Australian (sorry, but it’s true, it's not how we do things).
Some
people are not ready to be in a relationship and yet get into them
anyway. Some people are emotionally retarded and will
never give you what you need. Some people will hurt you badly and they
will never actually get any sort of pay back.
As much as it pains me to say it, I am not Meg
Ryan and neither are you. Expecting your life to work out that way is a
disservice to yourself. One thing you can try to do is have the
confidence and security of the lead character and know
when to call it a day. You may get to be pleasantly surprised and
things do work out, but it’s best to take things for what they are, not
what you want them to be or what the movies have you believe they will
be, because you’ll be chasing a dragon.
Hopefully
your reality works out to be better than any cheesy movie anyway. Fuck
Hollywood.
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